Betsimar Trujillo: A Mother's Practical Resolution

Betsimar Trujillo: A Mother's Practical Resolution: I always have long hair. My mum told me that I wasn't even born when my hair appeared inside of her belly and maybe it was the reason s...

A Mother's Practical Resolution

I always have long hair. My mum told me that I wasn't even born when my hair appeared inside of her belly and maybe it was the reason she had reflux during her pregnancy, but seriously, is that possible?. Well,  I think was her constant craving for chocolates and ice cream.

Three months ago, I decided to make a change, and I started from the top, my hair. When I decided to chop it up, I called my hairdresser, and we had a small talk about it, and she said: “it is fine Betsi, as long as you want it , no problem”. "Let’s book it in", I said.

After that call, I really started to have real nightmares about cutting my hair. One night, I dreamt that my whole hair was gone and only had a tiny small fringe in front of my forehead. Awful!! I felt anxious about going to my hairdresser and take the risk to do it. Any kind of doubts came up to my head; I got headaches and felt butterflies started to flying inside of my belly. I panicked and almost cancelled my appointment.

Anyway, as you can see. I did it and feel great with a very positive way to see the world now, crazy but true. I found my life more practical and had the sensation of freedom in my head. I only spend 5 minutes or less doing my hair in the mornings and only 10 or less blowing it off. It is fabulous.

But one day, someone said something that crush my heart deeply and I couldn't believe this is happening. After receiving good compliments, I realised that a haircut represents “A Mother’s Practical Resolution”. Oh my Gosh! I feel devastated, for the first time. Not because of the fact that other women gave their opinion about my haircut. This is just what other people see and say. “You did it because you are Mum, right?, when I become a Mum I would do the same, I guess”, she said.

Certainly I didn't like it, I never thought cutting my hair because “I am a Mother”. Yes, it is super practical when you are having a very busy life like mine as a Mum. I love my child and do whatever it takes to make her safe and happy. But, I just want to make people understand the difference between being a Mum and a being a normal regular person. 

As a Mum, my life is going so fast that I don’t realise that it is 7 o'clock in the evening and my work at home hasn't even started yet. My daughter is still watching Wiggles, and she hasn't had her dinner yet and I am doing other stuff, which I can’t remember right now. On the other hand, as a normal regular person, I work full time, love having lunch with friends, going out for dinner and see a movie, reading, and writing and when I got some time “off” I sit and playing around with my notes.

I really don’t like judging other people’s choices and especially when it is about other women. But, think about mothers’ practical resolution is to sacrifice their lives; it is out of my mind, and after having my child, I believe I have done more things that I would think in the past.

My theory for all these is; follow your instincts as I did, and be yourself. It doesn't matter if you are a parent or not, what is important is what you have inside and how you feel.

For me, I didn't have any mother’s practical resolutions; it is just a matter of self-esteem and feels good.

Cheers